Momma D says...

One day, at my son's football game, I got on the topic of hair with another mom. She asked if she could do my 6-yr-old's hair! MommaD has two boys, so I'm sure she was just dying to get her hands on a little girl's hair! She said, “I have everything, so don't bring a thing!” She said that she's tried so many products that her bathroom looks like a Sally's Beauty Supply! I took my daughter to Momma D's house the following day and she spent a few hours doing Dessy's hair, while telling me all kinds of new advice! Dessy loved “getting pampered”!

So here's what I learned from MommaD

Age: Early 30's (As I said in my first blog, I think this is an important factor when taking advice from people)

Ethnicity: Black/White

Experience with bi-racial hair: Herself and her younger sister who is Black/Hispanic. She said that her sister's hair is much like Dessy's hair, in it's curliness.

How often should it be washed: Once a week with shampoo. and on the no-wash days, every other day with warm water & conditioner. Choose a shampoo with no sulphates. She says that it takes some getting used to because it does not make much of a lather, so it feels like it's not doing much.

What types of products are best: Argan Oil and Garnier Fructise Leave-in Conditioner

What types of products are  the worst: Perms/straighteners, Grease, Hairsprays, Gel, Mousse, and using only water dries out the hair

What to do with hair overnight: Have it braided or put up, not able to get tangled. Doesn't recommend a silk pillowcase or do-rags.

Any other advice: Boars Hair brushes ONLY for smoothing the hair near the scalp, when styling. A comb for parting only, and paddle brush for brushing out and detangling. She says do not ever brush or detangle hair that is dry. Only if it is wet or very, very moisturized.
Use a mixture of leave-in conditioner and Argan Oil after the bath, while styling, and each morning while touching it up before school. I believe she said to put a little more each night before bed as well. She told me that Dessy's hair looks dry, damaged, and needs a lot of work. As I said in my last post, she believes that if I use the Argan Oil consistently, then I will see a big difference in her hair. She thinks within a few weeks it will be less frizzy, and easier to manage.

Now I'll be honest- the more I thought about it, I did get my feelings- or Mommy ego- hurt. I take pride in being a Mom! It's what I do! I can admit that Dessy's hair is not my number one priority and I don't spend much time focusing on it. But usually, MommaD sees Dessy at my son's football practice, on week nights, after a whole day... I'm trying to justify my child's hair looking crazy and frizzy. Is it working? So I got a little offended because I felt like she thinks I'm neglecting my girl's hair! Trust me, I spend more time on her hair than I do on my own. But I realize now that I need to spend a little MORE time on her hair... so I don't look like a bad Mommy AND so her hair will be healthy.

My Conclusion to this theory:
 I tested this theory for the past 4 weeks and I can't say that her hair is any different. When using these products, her hair is not oily to the point that it gets on other things, so I like that about these products! It is less tangly, so that is good. But she still has frizzy baby hairs that stick up after a few hours of playing or being outside. I know this might be silly, but one thing I don't like about these products is that her hair looks darker. Dessy's hair normally looks blonde, especially on the ends and I love that! Today was the first day in four weeks that I didn't use any products after her bath. I can't see much of a difference in her hair from what it was before I ever tried Argan Oil.

The photo on the left is of Dessy, sitting in MommaD's living room, immediately after MommaD washed & styled her hair. The second photo is of Dessy, the very next day, immediately after school.

 

I NEED SOME FEEDBACK HERE: Why does Dessy's hair look like that, with the little hairs sticking up all over the place? Is it normal for healthy hair to do that? Is it because it is damaged and/or unhealthy? Some other reason? Please share your opinion below. Thank you!!