I'll start by sharing my own
experiences. FYI: The lighter purple words are links- click on it and you will see what I'm talking about =)
When my son was born, I was told that I need to put Baby Oil or Vaseline on his hair. He only had a tiny amount of hair! He was bald on the top and the sides had not even a quarter of an inch. I chose not to use anything because I wanted to be able to snuggle and kiss my baby's head without getting Vaseline on my lips & face! Also, I didn't see any need for it- his scalp wasn't dry and he didn't have cradle cap or anything at all. His hair looked straight and didn't seem to need a thing. I just washed with baby head-to-toe wash.
When my son was born, I was told that I need to put Baby Oil or Vaseline on his hair. He only had a tiny amount of hair! He was bald on the top and the sides had not even a quarter of an inch. I chose not to use anything because I wanted to be able to snuggle and kiss my baby's head without getting Vaseline on my lips & face! Also, I didn't see any need for it- his scalp wasn't dry and he didn't have cradle cap or anything at all. His hair looked straight and didn't seem to need a thing. I just washed with baby head-to-toe wash.
Once his hair got longer and had curls, I'd put a little water on the curls if they looked frizzy and it was perfect! Sometimes
I'd put a little baby lotion to make the curls last a little longer
and it smelled nice. I trimmed his hair here and there if it looked
uneven or if it was getting too long and sometimes I put gel in it.
When he was 4 or 5 years old, we took him to get his hair cut (using
clippers) and they buzzed it really short! I remember thinking he
looked sickly. =( After that, his curls were never the same. His
hair continued to grow more and more coarse, and less curly. Today,
you can't get his hair to curl one bit! He went through a phase where
he wanted to have a fro!
After the attempt to have a fro, we
allowed him to get a short Mohawk for a while, but for the most part,
we keep it cut pretty short. He usually has a nice little fade. I
still don't put anything in his hair. I see no need to.
With my 6-yr-old daughter, she was born
with a few inches of super soft, jet black hair. It wasn't very curly
until after her first year of life. I did the same with her hair as I
did with my son- just baby shampoo a few times a week and water +
lotion to fix up the curls. When she was about 3, I started using my own super moisturizing shampoo and conditioner and putting
friz-ease or similar hair serums in her hair after I washed it and it
made it a little easier to style.
Last year, she got lice!!!! That meant
an hour or more every morning and evening of picking through her
super kinky curls- not fun for either one of us! I got rid of the
lice and it came right back THREE TIMES!!! I finally took the advice
of another mom with mixed kids and I bought some grease to put in her
hair. The rumors are true: Lice do not like oil or greasey environments! The kind I bought
was the best-smelling kind I could find and it had Olive Oil in it.
I'm not a fan of grease because it stays on everything it touches-
clothes, furniture, freshly applied makeup, and my hair- which does
NOT look great when it's oily. I used it for about a month and I keep
it on hand just in case I need to start using it against lice again.
Over the last few months, I've started
using leave-in conditioner in her hair. Suave has some in a gold
bottle that I really like! Garnier has some in a green bottle that
works well too. It's great for keeping her hair from getting tangled
while I'm styling it. And for the mornings, before school, I get her
hair a little wet and then use the leave-in conditioner to tame it
and re-style easily. I now use the shampoo and conditioners from the Suave Keratin Line for myself and Dessy- it gave me a whole new definition of smooth!!
Just last week, a friend who is
bi-racial (I will call her Momma D...I'll post a blog on her coming soon!) told me
to use Argan Oil from Sally's Beauty Supply. I'm not sure if this is
the best thing for Dessy's hair, but I'm going to give it a try.
Momma D believes that if I use it consistently then I will see a
major improvement in Destiny's hair within a few weeks. I'll follow
up with my conclusion later. I started using it about 2 weeks ago. So
far, I think it's okay. I'm not convinced that this is THE ANSWER to her hair needs, but I like it in some ways... like I said, I'm giving it a try.
Now for BabyD, I recently found this AWESOME baby shampoo made for curly hair! It's Johnson's and it smells so
nice and leaves her hair feeling silky! Then I use the Johnson'sleave-in conditioner (smells exactly the same as the shampoo) to
brush out her flowing locks... okay, that's an exaggeration... she
doesn't have much hair still! There's just enough to get tangled and barely enough to wrap
a teeny-tiny rubber band around to make one pig tail at the top of
her head, or two even more teeny-tiny piggy tails. It's
really adorable FOR THE FULL TEN MINUTES before she removes the
rubber bands and then she's left with an unnamed, funky hairdo that
reminds me of the fur on a guinea pig.
So, I usually let her hair
do whatever it wants to. Once a day, I spray a little water on it to
reset the curls, add some more leave-in conditioner. A few times, I
have tried Argan Oil on BabyD but I didn't like the way it looked after a few hours. It looked like the oil was still in some areas, closer to her scalp (wet-looking) and not in other places. It looked like she had been sweating heavily.
One thing that I hope to find out more
about on this journey is the difference between Curly Hair, Frizzy
Hair, and Dry Hair. I have heard more than a few people used those
terms interchangeably. To be honest, I got slightly offended when I
heard that. First of all, I have curly hair too. Just because the
curls are not shining and sticking together to create a perfect curl,
does that automatically mean that the hair is dry and damaged? Could
it be possible that it's healthy and frizzy? I think so. Most
people have different textures of hair on different areas of the
head- more fine or course or straight or curly, depending on the area
of the head. Has anyone else noticed that with their hair? Please let me know!
In this
case with Momma D, she feels like Dessy's hair is damaged and dry so
that is why it is frizzy when she wakes up in the morning or after a
full day of school. I just think it's baby hairs. My family always
used the term“Baby Hairs” for the shorter hair around the
hairline that tend to not lay down with the rest of the hair that is
pulled back in a ponytail- most people have this problem whether
curly, straight, or somewhere in between. My belief is that those
hairs are shorter and they never grow out- not because of damage.
I am not a hairdresser or a scientist or professional in
any way, therefore I am open to learning and I might be proved wrong.
We shall see!
Lookin' good, girl!! :)
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